Being both, a writer and a mom.
Being a writer and a momma is a challenge. I used to think that I would find the special magic answer that would suddenly make the balance of these two things easy. Okay, I admit it, I was looking for the easy way out. The lazy way. I couldn’t find one. So I had to turn to hard work and balance. Balancing both your mom life and your writing life isn’t easy. It takes a lot of trial and error. It talks a lot of practice and it takes some commitment to make both work smoothly.
It is absolutely possible to balance your writing life with your mom life, but it will require a few things.
Flexibility: As writers we would love to sit down in our special writing place, and work on our story fully involving our whole minds on the project. As a mom that isn’t always possible. For some of us, if we are going to get our writing done we don’t have time to wait for that perfect moment.
We have to work it in. That might mean you have to make your writing mobile, so you can take it with you wherever you need to go. For example while you wait in the car to pick your kids up from school. That might mean you have to get used to working with noise in the background instead of your special writing soundtrack.
Hard work: Figuring out this balance is hard work. To be a successful writer you need goals to move yourself along your writer’s journey. To reach those goals you need time to accomplish them. Kids also need a lot of your time. It can feel overwhelming at first to make it all work, but keep trying. You will find the balance. It might mean you are a little busier because you are trying to balance both being a mom and a writer but if you are willing to turn to working hard on both it will pay off.
Sacrifice: This might be some of your relaxation time. This might be some of the time you’ve spent on other hobbies; this might be some sleep time. I know that I’ve chosen to give up a little time in all three areas but to me it is so worth it. It is worth getting up a half hour before everyone else wakes up to work on my writing. It is worth it to split my time between hobbies and it is worth it to be more productive in my evenings. Look at where you can adjust, and you will find time to write where it won’t cut into your time you need to be all mom.
Time adjustment: When you have no kids, you can basically write whenever, while juggling normal life and a job. Add the kids and all you have to do is adjust your time. You might become a night owl, and work on your writing then. You might become a morning person and find your writing time before the kids wake up. Seems easy enough, but remember just like when you finally figure out your babies sleep schedule, it changes, your perfect little schedule you will figure out will change too. As they grow their schedule will change, and yours will need to change too. So this time adjustment thing never goes away. To make both work you need to be willing to always be tweaking how you do things.